normal behavior of parents during the next "debriefing" - bullying, invocation of the conscience, attempts being ashamed."You have here the devils that, and here at Svetka Boldina room perfect order ..." - accuses mom, more than ashamed, wants their child.And this is the first error of parents in the ranks of those who are in any case should not be allowed, if they want to teach a child to order and discipline.
So typical mistakes adults when trying to teach a child to order:
- baby shopping
Many parents first encouraged completed assignment candy, new toys, and even money, and then wait for that child is not out without them.
- a requirement of the parents
Admit it, it happens that someone from the household can afford to leave the dishes in the sink or mug on the desktop, not to lay down their clothes at a place in time.
- inconvenient to use the furniture in the nursery
Few people pay attention to it, but nailed high shelves or tables, of which have to pull everything until you ge
Before we blame the child in the disorder, parents should not just dismantle these items, but also to take one important thing - a child of any age is not swept up the mess.His need to clean slightly reduced - and the blame for all biology.The fact that the frontal part of the brain, responsible for attention and organization skills, to develop 18-19 years.Therefore, the child does not cleans not of protest, a child does not know how to do it and why.
cleaning problem in the house can be solved in several ways.
1. Pleasant with useful
accustom a small child can be to clean and so: as long as the baby will put toys or clothing to the places he read Harry Potter and loved by all of the Brothers Grimm fairy tales.As soon as the child will be heard and will cease to do something useful, stop.Nor should we read him "in debt."In this case, probably a part of the transaction will fail.
This joint work will be important until the child has entered adolescence.With children, whose age is 13-14-year-old crossed the threshold, this method is unlikely to work.With them it is better to arrange a joint voluntary work, to determine in advance the time and day.Responsible for cleaning on an equal footing - as you, so many teenager.It is to be honest!
2. Organization of space
Many parents had to deal with the problem of child throwing his toys around the house, and the senior notes does not respond.To like this has happened, remember the first rule of a child's room - plenty of space.Only if the child will have enough personal space, he will not leave your things in the kitchen or on the floor in the living room.
It is important that the baby (or toddler is not already), not just had a bunch of lockers and could put to their toys.In some of the boxes need to add a constructor, and to what extent - a broken robot?Where leave watercolor and ink, and where to send the soiled sock?Parents are well aware of where to send it all, but the child a clue!
Then come to the aid of good practice - the signature of each box and the boxes.Do it with a favorite child.Let the cleaning will be something of a game.Each store can sign colored markers or paint them with watercolors and paste images of favorite characters.
teenager, of course, is to offer a more radical change.Ask whether there is in the room unnecessary furniture or anything that requires repair / replacement.Perhaps your child has a passion for a long time wallpapers, and its walls are decorated with elephants and flowers.Or high school student wants to prove himself in the design of stylish shelf with books, and the room is an old grandmother lacquered secretary.Go forward - to make repairs, allow the teenager to transform your room personally.The only condition of your trade should be in order.
3. System Development
Children perceive the world differently.Each child needs an individual approach.Before you force your child to clean their own, do it together with him.Spoon things out and watch how the child responds - it helps if you, or do their own thing, is waiting for your instructions or works independently.Based on observations, make some conclusions.
Perhaps your child is only to determine the harvesting area (eg in a cupboard) or offer to remove certain things (collect dirty laundry or toys).Someone need to paint all the action on the shelves (and wash the floor in his room, first sweep (broom and dustpan in there somewhere), type in a bucket of hot water, take a rag and mop in there somewhere ...).Or line up the system volume: Sunday - desk, on Monday - a case ... and so for the whole week.Make cleaning schedule with your child and determine his place - or on the fridge, or in his room.It will clearly remind and encourage him to take action.
4. Toys are able to take offense
Tell your child a story about how one boy / girl did not want to remove their belongings in place, and once they're gone (to fix, you can use "Moidodir").Secretly collect half of those toys, which regularly uses child and hide in a safe place.When a child discovers the loss, explain that robots have taken offense, and that others are not gone, they need to clean up the place.
5. Radical method
Just pick up and throw it in the bucket of everything that is not in place: broken robots, monsters head plastic, mixed puzzles, leaves with scribbles!Typically, it covers not only the floor in the nursery, but also in the living room, the kitchen and the parents' bedroom.Just be sure to tell your child twice.What you do, there should not be a surprise for the children of.If your requests remain unanswered, without regret collect all the garbage and throw out a toy.Do not hide in his room or in the garage / storeroom in / to the attic - namely emissions.
understanding and patience - important components of the relationship between parent and child.Try to listen to the needs of his child.Take the first step towards, and beloved one will answer you the same.Good luck!