How to behave when you are abused : psychological advice

How to behave when you are abused : psychological advice
You will need:
  • Restraint
  • Self-esteem
  • coolness
  • ability to give verbal rebuff
  • sense of humor
  • Calm
# 1

is not always life manthere are only people with whom he is comfortable and nice to talk to.And frequent situations in which the encounter with frank rudeness, brutality and humiliation.Someone who is loyal to such methods of interaction with others, will not fail to respond to such acts the same.However, it usually does not lead to the desired result - as a rule, the situation is only getting worse.The same people who are well educated, and they do not accept any manifestation of what is considered "bad behavior" by meeting with them in practice, and sometimes do not know how to adequately respond to it, so as not to lose their dignity and not "fall "to the level snapper.

# 2

Psychologists recommend to keep cool in situations of open conflict, to train their own emotions.Normally, in a situation when a person openly insult, he shows aggression response evinces any confusion,

depression.None of these momentary feelings will not help him get out of the situation, while maintaining the "face".Moreover - in this case, the offender will triumph, because its made - unsettled.To like this has happened, and the "offender" had seen before only a confident and calm person, should be "rehearse" the situation possible.Imagining the time of the conflict, it is necessary to imagine its "counterpart" in miserable form.. Nasty toad, vain yapping lap-dogs, etc.

# 3

In addition, let the imagination draws about this picture: angry words of the interlocutor does not get uphuman hearing, as if the first is somewhere at the bottom of a deep chasm.To this was easier, not be amiss to outline clearly for itself its own psychological borders.In other words, to establish those limits of personal space, which no outsider has the right to cross under any circumstances.In particular this applies to the emotional sphere.One should determine how it allows you to "outsiders" to invade his senses, causing them confusion.It is important to understand how to respond to a particular situation - the choice of the person and not the other.

# 4

Any expert on the question: "How to behave when you are insulted," - says that it is very necessary competent verbal resistance.Of course, it is unacceptable to stoop to insults - should learn to reason with the other without such baseness.If a person knows that the most inopportune moment eloquence suddenly leaves him, he should think about how to prepare in advance a few scathing remarks, suitable for any situation.You also need to come up with a couple of phrases that can be used when the offender will be stepping on the most "sore spots".It is not so difficult, as any known, for any weakness or vice versa - the strengths of him often "fall to" during the conflict.

# 5

allowed and improvisation - in fact, it is very desirable.This phrase should be short enough (the more it will "blow") and respond directly to a word insulting opponent in his statement or remark as a whole.Here is a good example of life.Once a very decent young lady in public transport had met with a blatant rudeness on the part of Mr. "tipsy".Frequent phenomenon, is not it?Politely asking him not to dismiss his hands (he had already begun to do) and not breathing on her its fumes, it was sent to...known all over the Russian-speaking world three letters.Her response was brief, saying that it is there more often than her assailant - sober.Hop out of his head as if the wind blew.The drunk was struck to end the path as if numb.

# 6

But with strangers is always easier because they usually do not mean anything in one's life, and pass it in short episodes.However, very often people will ask themselves: "How to behave if you insult close to the road, or those who have to constantly deal with and need to be considered?" In such cases, an eloquent silence can be more than just gold and authentic diamonds.As one of the great thinkers, when seething passion, truth evaporates, like boiling water.It follows from this that to argue with someone at the moment of conflict is useless, even more so - to try to him to prove something or respond to his insults any arguments.Much better - off, referring to employment, and the offer to talk later.

# 7

If you need to speak with the "offender", but it is clearly not intended to be a constructive way, to reduce the "degree" of the situation and move the heater all in a peaceful course helps a sense of humor.For example, name calling "fool" to answer that, well, that's how life is not lucky enough to close now because of this "were stuck."Everything must speak calmly and with a friendly smile.Continuing in the same vein, people easily take away from his opponent's weapon - insults.Perhaps, after such the "cool down", his negative emotions lose their make-up.Always remember that "the transition to the individual," occurs when other arguments have been completed.Thus, "the enemy" shows its diplomatic impotence.So, it remains only to regret.